The limits of my means

This practice helps you find peace with what you can and cannot control as a mother or father, especially when you question what you could do or why things are the way they are.

1. Pause for a moment

Take a few slow, deep breaths, and place a hand on your heart if it feels supportive.
Allow yourself to fully arrive in this moment.

2. Bring your child to mind

Gently bring your child or your children to mind.
Imagine them as clearly as possible.
Notice what emotions arise — love, concern, tenderness.
Let everything be just as it is.

3. Reflect on your limits

Silently repeat these words, or adapt them to your situation:

 

Every person has their own path to walk, their own star to follow.
You, too, my child.
With all my heart I want to protect you on your life’s journey…
protect you from all pain, suffering and adversity.
But it is beyond my means,
it does not lie within my power,
nor is it right for me to take on that full responsibility.
Each human being is on their own journey of life.
May I accept the limitations of my means as a parent.
I can try to build a harbour
in which you can feel secure and protected,
where you can rest, recharge your batteries
and experience connectedness.
But I cannot protect you from the low points in your life
or the storms and dangers on your journey.
Nevertheless, I wish with all my heart
that you be free from turmoil, pain and suffering on your life’s journey,
and that you can grow and unfold in your own unique way.

Let these words settle gently within you for as long as you need.
If helpful, read them once more.

4. Close gently

Let go of any images or words that may have arisen.
Bring your attention back to your breath and your body.
When you feel ready, slowly open your eyes and return to your day.