Self-compassion break

This practice helps you respond to stress or challenges in the moment with kindness toward yourself, instead of self-judgment. It allows you to calm your nervous system whenever you feel overwhelmed, exhausted, or discouraged.

1. Pause

Take a few slow breaths. Notice any tension or discomfort in your body and emotions without judging them.

2. Acknowledge your experience

Silently say to yourself, in a gentle tone, one of these phrases—or any words that feel natural to you:

  • “This is difficult.”
  • “This hurts.”
  • “This is stressful.”
  • “I am going through a hard moment.”
Allow yourself to fully recognize what you are feeling.

3. Remember your being human

Remind yourself that difficulty is part of being human:

  • “Everyone faces challenges.”
  • “I am not the only one who feels this way.”
  • “This is part of the human experience.”
Let these words connect you with others who are going through similar experiences.

4. Offer yourself kindness

Place a hand on your heart or on another part of your body that feels comforting. Feel the warmth and support of your touch.

Ask yourself:

  • “What do I need right now?”
  • “How can I care for myself in this moment?”

Or offer yourself kind phrases, such as:

  • “May I be kind to myself.”
  • “May I give myself what I need.”
  • “May I be patient and gentle.”
  • “May I accept myself as I am.”
If this feels difficult, imagine what you would say to a dear friend facing a similar situation —and say it to yourself.

5. Close Gently

Let the words fade into the background of your awareness. Sit quietly for a few moments. Notice how you feel now. When you are ready, gently return to your day.
You can offer yourself this practice whenever you feel overwhelmed, tired, or discouraged, and when you wish to respond to stress or difficulty with kindness rather than self-criticism.