Feeling my boundaries

This practice helps you become more aware of your personal limits and how to express them with clarity and care.

1. Settle In

Sit comfortably.
Take a few slow, deep breaths.
Let your body relax and arrive in the present moment.

2. Recall a Boundary Moment

Bring to mind a recent conflict with your child where you felt your limits were unclear or difficult to express.
Gently recall:

• What happened?
• Who was involved?
• What was said or done?
• How did your body feel?

Notice any emotions, thoughts, or impulses that arise.

3. Pause and Ground

Take a mindful breathing space:

• Notice what is present — body sensations, thoughts, feelings — without judging.
• Take five slow, attentive breaths.
• Feel your whole body again. Place a hand on your heart if it feels supportive.

Offer yourself compassion for the difficulty of the situation.

4. Reflect on Your Boundaries

Let each question resonate quietly:

• Did I notice my boundary before or after it was crossed?
• How does it feel in my body to set a limit?
• What do I avoid when I don’t set a boundary?
• What do I most want or need right now?

Allow honest answers to arise, without forcing them.

5. Close Gently

Let go of the reflection.
Return to your breath.
Notice how you feel now.
Carry this awareness into future moments with your child.